Following up on my “should” topic, let’s take a look at another group of energy-sucking phrases.
“Have to” “Need to” “I must”
There are very few things we have to do or need to do, and everything else is choice.**
In fact, if I talked with you right now, I bet I could trace almost all your have-tos and need-tos to earlier choices that you made quite voluntarily. In other words, you might think you have to, but you only have to because you want something else. It’s that simple.
But you pay an emotional price when you walk around saying, “I have to” and “I need to.” You even pay a price by saying “I need” all by itself.
Need implies lack, and your subconscious hears need phrases as “something’s missing.” Need phrases are probably second only to should-statements in their capability to sink your mood-ship with a series of small holes.
“I need to… I have to… I feel like I’m pushing this boulder of ‘have-tos’ around all day.”
Try phrasing your desires as “I want” instead. Try it now. Take . . . → Read More: “Have To” and “Need To” vs. “Want To”
